First, it sounds like you live where there are 4 distinct seasons. With that, here are a couple of previous posts to review. Read the 2nd one especially as it relates directly to your question. (The 1st post is just 'useful info'.)
Sealer Problem and Sealing An Asphalt Driveway
My best to ya and hope this helps.
Jay J -Moderator
PS: God Bless America!
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