Hi, Ed. As you probably know, pine will almost always look blotchy when stained. I suggest one of 2 things. You can use the stains that come in the yellow cans that are available at every home center but first apply a spit coat. After sanding, vacuuming and tack ragging the piece, apply a mix of 5 parts denatured alcohol to 1 part 3# cut shellac with a cheap natural bristle brush. This will dry in about 10 minutes, then you lightly sand and vacuum and tack rag again. Then you can stain. But using these stains, your color will not come anywhere close to the stain colors in their brochures/literature. While you are doing the spit coat, do some of the cutting scraps from your cabinet and you can use them to test the actual color you get from mixing several of the "yellow can" colors to get the look you want. Be sure you mix enough to stain the whole piece.
The second option is to use a gel stain. Thse hide the wood grain to a great degree but also aviod the blotchyness. Your home center should have these too.
It is impossible to discuss exact colors in writing because everybody has a different idea in their head of what look they want. My mental picture will always be different from your mental picture.
Don't forget to follow label directions on these products and especially to put any rags outside for a couple of days to dry completely.