Hi, Larry. The stain color that you choose will have more to do with the look than anything else. But I think that with the soft pine, good protection for the wood is even more necessary. I would go with the same finishing schedule that I usually suggest which is: 1. Sand well and vacuum and tack rag up all the sanding dust. 2. A spit coat of one part shellac to 5 parts denatured alcohol to prevent blotchy stain (very flammable so be careful about ignition sources). 3. Stain. 4. A coat of Parks Pro Finisher oil based polyurethane. 5. After 24 hours, sand lightly with a used sanding screen on a buffer. 6. Another coat of the polyurethane.
One suggestion is certainly to use a matte finish poly but on the last coat you might wish to add a cup of cheap talcum powder (from any drugstore) per gallon of poly. This will flatten the finish even more. Be sure that you stir this in really well and keep stirring occasionally as you apply the poly.
Since the pine is so soft, be sure to keep some of the same batch of stain for fixing the inevitable scratches.